I don’t know how exactly you become an “expert” on hotel sex (the answer is that you publish books entitled “She Comes First” and “Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide To Pleasuring A Man”), but apparently psychotherapist and sex counselor Ian Kerner is one.
Huffington Post published a story yesterday entitled “You’re Right, Hotel Sex IS Better Than Regular Sex. Here’s Why.”
So, why is hotel sex supposedly better than non-hotel sex? The basic reasons are as follows:
- Hotels are an indulgence — hotels are designed to be “luxurious and sensual,” and to appeal to the five senses; therefore it’s a good setting
- Hotels help you check out of life — for sexual arousal to occur, you want to minimize anxiety and stress, and escaping from home helps with that
- You don’t have to go very far — even a staycation should have these effects
I don’t have much firsthand experience here, but my initial thoughts are:
- Based on the transactional secondhand sex I’ve had to deal with in hotels, there does seem to be some truth to it
- I generally get less enjoyment out of hotels at the thought of people having sex in the beds I sleep in
- What if you live in hotels full time?
In all honesty, while I agree to some degree, I’m also somewhat skeptical of the conclusion. On average I don’t think people are actually more relaxed in hotels than at home. You’re often dealing with jetlag, the obligations of work, the expectation to “maximize” everything as much as you can, etc. There have been many studies about how the greatest enjoyment which comes out of vacations is the anticipation. Personally I don’t find travel to be “relaxing,” even if I’m traveling to a relaxation destination.
So rather than listening to some fancy author, let’s pose the questions to the people who truly stay in hotels all the time. What do you guys think — is hotel sex better?
(Tip of the hat to View from the